When we want to experience an aspect or virtue we lack, knowingly or unknowingly we start looking for that aspect in others (friendships and relationships) in the hope that they will complete us with that aspect we see in lack within us.
The human conditioning to look outside when in lack or need, automatically and very seamlessly attracts such relationships into our lives that seem to complete us and somehow make us feel lively. And conditioning by default carries an expectation that the other will fulfill for us that which we seek (in lack).
However, conditioning always forgets that it is in "The Other" we are seeking what we need and we never ever have complete control over "The Other"! So when people fail us in friendships and relationships, it is only because our expectation broke! The expectation that "The Other" couldn't meet or fulfill!
The human conditioning to look outside when in lack or need, automatically and very seamlessly attracts such relationships into our lives that seem to complete us and somehow make us feel lively. And conditioning by default carries an expectation that the other will fulfill for us that which we seek (in lack).
However, conditioning always forgets that it is in "The Other" we are seeking what we need and we never ever have complete control over "The Other"! So when people fail us in friendships and relationships, it is only because our expectation broke! The expectation that "The Other" couldn't meet or fulfill!
In the absence of awareness, conditioning makes us jump to people or favor people who are completing us by holding aspects that we are in lack. And unknowingly we become very attached to those people.
The law of universe is such that it attracts people who carry the similar vibration as us. So if we are in the vibration of lack, we attract people with lack in their vibration.
Such relationships lead to an experience of misunderstandings, heart breaks and broken expectations. We hold "The Other" responsible for our misery and discomfort that unearths from our own dysfunctional seeking (in lack). And as we start to notice it as a pattern in our life, we create another dysfunctional story in our minds that our life sucks and somehow we are deserving of that.
Everything in this Universe is in wholeness at all times! And so does every experience! In its wholeness every experience carries everything we need to know about that experience, “from why to how, from when to where, from what to that”. There is both bliss and mess in every experience. The contrast is what the wholeness is all about (“Yin-Yang perfectly symbolizes this contrast). It is through the nature of contrast we realize the difference between “that which is” and “that which is not”. All that we need to know is in between “that which is” and “that which is not”!
So an experience of a broken expectation to heart break, isn’t without its bliss. Broken expectation (the breaking of an idea/thought/belief which is limited in its existence) is an invitation from our within to look through the cracks and find the bliss that the experience carries. The pain of the broken expectation provides us with the information we need to know about ourselves. “What expectation did we carry for the other? Why did we have such an expectation? What are we lacking within us that we tried to look for in the other? Why are we looking outside of ourselves to seal that lack within us? What do we have within us to help heal or bring that lack to its fullness (feeling of complete)? And so on …”
Most times, people experience the initial feeling that it offers and very prematurely label the experience as good or bad and move on with out even understanding the wholeness of it. It is not until we really look within that experience fully, we understand the wholeness of it both in its bliss and mess. Our answers to all our questions come in that wholeness of the experience. As we question, one question leads to the other and more through the other. Our questions lead the way to the wholeness of our experience. As we experience the wholeness, we become fully present to the experience! Being fully present to the experience is what Awareness is all about!
In the awareness, we become the joyful owner of our own experience. We learn everything that we need to know about ourselves through our own experiences of “that which is (who we are) and that which is not (who we are not)”. As we start recognizing who we are through who we are not, we start filling our lack with our joyful being which springs forth our healing and well-being.
In our well-being, our vibration is of fullness and the law of universe is such that it attracts people who carry the similar vibration as us. Our vibration of fullness (complete being) attracts people with fullness in their vibration. Where there is fullness, there is no need for an experience of lack and heart break as we are already full of Life! There is nothing in the other that can complete us, so there is absolutely no point looking into “The Other” which is already within us (the dysfunctional seeking stops). What completes us is our own realization and there by expansion into “who we really are”!
The one who is full, complete and joyful! ❤
Love, Light & Peace,
Prashanthi (Pure Peace)
The law of universe is such that it attracts people who carry the similar vibration as us. So if we are in the vibration of lack, we attract people with lack in their vibration.
Such relationships lead to an experience of misunderstandings, heart breaks and broken expectations. We hold "The Other" responsible for our misery and discomfort that unearths from our own dysfunctional seeking (in lack). And as we start to notice it as a pattern in our life, we create another dysfunctional story in our minds that our life sucks and somehow we are deserving of that.
Everything in this Universe is in wholeness at all times! And so does every experience! In its wholeness every experience carries everything we need to know about that experience, “from why to how, from when to where, from what to that”. There is both bliss and mess in every experience. The contrast is what the wholeness is all about (“Yin-Yang perfectly symbolizes this contrast). It is through the nature of contrast we realize the difference between “that which is” and “that which is not”. All that we need to know is in between “that which is” and “that which is not”!
So an experience of a broken expectation to heart break, isn’t without its bliss. Broken expectation (the breaking of an idea/thought/belief which is limited in its existence) is an invitation from our within to look through the cracks and find the bliss that the experience carries. The pain of the broken expectation provides us with the information we need to know about ourselves. “What expectation did we carry for the other? Why did we have such an expectation? What are we lacking within us that we tried to look for in the other? Why are we looking outside of ourselves to seal that lack within us? What do we have within us to help heal or bring that lack to its fullness (feeling of complete)? And so on …”
Most times, people experience the initial feeling that it offers and very prematurely label the experience as good or bad and move on with out even understanding the wholeness of it. It is not until we really look within that experience fully, we understand the wholeness of it both in its bliss and mess. Our answers to all our questions come in that wholeness of the experience. As we question, one question leads to the other and more through the other. Our questions lead the way to the wholeness of our experience. As we experience the wholeness, we become fully present to the experience! Being fully present to the experience is what Awareness is all about!
In the awareness, we become the joyful owner of our own experience. We learn everything that we need to know about ourselves through our own experiences of “that which is (who we are) and that which is not (who we are not)”. As we start recognizing who we are through who we are not, we start filling our lack with our joyful being which springs forth our healing and well-being.
In our well-being, our vibration is of fullness and the law of universe is such that it attracts people who carry the similar vibration as us. Our vibration of fullness (complete being) attracts people with fullness in their vibration. Where there is fullness, there is no need for an experience of lack and heart break as we are already full of Life! There is nothing in the other that can complete us, so there is absolutely no point looking into “The Other” which is already within us (the dysfunctional seeking stops). What completes us is our own realization and there by expansion into “who we really are”!
The one who is full, complete and joyful! ❤
Love, Light & Peace,
Prashanthi (Pure Peace)
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